Happy People Versus Unhappy People: How Do They Do It?

So while reading the Facebook feed I come across this story about happiness that shamefully links to itself at least fifteen different times if not more. Now, I clicked on it because it looked promising and interesting and if you guys haven’t noticed I’m on a progressive path of improvement lately and it sounded useful.

And indeed, a lot of these points were good … but a lot of them also sounded a little bit like crap to me. So now I’m here to bring you my own personal experience with happiness and unhappiness, optimism and pessimism, and how to see the glass a little bit fuller.

  • Set realistic goals. You aren’t going to be able to get a 4.0 GPA for the year if you have a 3.29 GPA in the third quarter of the school year. You’re not going to be able to reach the managerial position of the company that just hired you to be a part-time worker. You need to take baby steps to achieve the things you want. Not only is this an excellent mechanism for actually understanding and achieving the ultimate goal that you want, but it gives you extra opportunities to feel good about yourself. Each step that you make and surpass makes you happier.
  • Know how to cheer yourself up. Listen to your favorite (not sad) songs, watch your favorite movie. Maybe surf the Internet with StumbleUpon if it suits your fancy. When you know you need a pick-me-up, know what to do. Idle time could be time well spent if you make it.
  • Know when to work hard. Even if you don’t want to. You won’t be making the grade (or promotion) if you don’t put the time into the task. There are times for yourself and there are times for dedication to the goal at hand, and it’s vital that you understand the difference.
  • Manage your time. This is basically a predecessor to the previous two bullets, but again, it’s incredibly important in order to remain sane while changing your life for the better that you know when to relax and when to pull an all-nighter studying or learning something for your job.
  • Be patient and tolerant. It isn’t going to make your goal any easier to achieve by putting down others, or getting frustrated for things that aren’t worth the trouble. In fact, by trying to be more peaceful and patient, you may find your relationships with others become friendlier and this is often a useful thing if you need the assistance of others in your goal. For example, a student to study with or a teacher to devote extra time, or a boss to impress who would be promoting you.
  • Never underestimate the power of taking care of yourself. If you feel low, and you’ve been feeling low and none of your normal activities are working to get you feeling okay again … You should begin what I call Revitalization. Draw a nice long bath with bubbles. Maybe read a book or play some music, light  some candles, whatever floats your boat. Then dry your hair, brush your teeth, comb your hair, do all of the little things that you always do and all of the little things that you never quite have time to do. Clip your nails. Floss your teeth. Shave, if you are so inclined. At the end of the process look in the mirror at all of the differences. You smell good, look good, and hopefully … feel good.

Anyway, this is a list that I wanted to go a little differently and many things distracted me from the ultimate goal, which was supposed to be oriented in a way similar to the Purpose Fairy article … but! This is just fine too. I hope even one of these little things stood out to even one person and made your day/week/month a little more cheerful.

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